Danyo Pang

The best conversation starter in Chinese

Published 12 days ago • 1 min read

The best way I improved my Chinese speaking was by having more conversations.

And the best way to have more and better conversations is to have a great conversation starter.

A good conversation starter lets the other person know you're there.

A great conversation starter lets the other person feel that you’re both there together.

It creates an instant connection and lowers their guard, making them more open and engaged. Think about it: a great conversation starter breaks the ice. It piques curiosity and invites more questions.

My favorite conversation starter in Chinese is:

(bù hǎo yì si, wǒ de zhōng wén bù tài hǎo)
"Sorry, my Chinese is not very good."

It seems simple but it’s powerful. This self-deprecating phrase humanizes you, showing humility and a willingness to learn, which is disarming.

When speaking with a native Chinese speaker, this makes them feel valued because you are acknowledging their language expertise.

Most people have their guard up.

They don't plan to connect with random strangers. But when you break the ice with vulnerability, it invites the other person to do the same, opening the door for a deeper conversation.

But the truth is, the best conversation starter is personal and depends on your level, personality, and situation. The only way to find what works best for you is by having more conversations with native speakers.

The best part? You don’t need to be fluent to start conversations, you don’t even need to be good. You just need to copy Chinese speakers.

I call it the Copy Paste Speak technique.

I used this simple system to connect with locals in Taiwan, even when my speaking skills were poor.

But to make sure everything is crystal clear for you, I'll hop on a call with the first 5 people who register to help optimize your study plan and goals.

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